Chances are that many of us have experienced some form of heartache, heartbreak or mental breakdown that has caused much stress to our beings and have left an everlasting effect of some sort. Is there ever an easy way to get over traumas and/or other life events we endure that impact us negatively? These experiences leave behind invisible scars, which imprint on our souls and forever change the way we view the world.
The good news is healing can be achieved through time and dedication to oneself—internally and externally. Here are just a few ways that come to mind:
How to Heal Internally
Buddha says that “We are shaped by our own thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.” If one believes this to be true, then we have the ability to help ourselves to heal our minds with our thoughts... what!?!
That is why there is so much importance in surrounding oneself with positivity. Take in as many positive thoughts as possible. Surround yourself with positive people that have your wellbeing in mind, and make it a point to eat as many healthy and nutrient-rich foods as possible to ensure healing from the inside out.
How to Heal Externally
Exercise is going to be one of the biggest external factors that will help you on your healing journey. Getting into motion, and getting the blood flowing will do wonders for your body (internally and externally).
Get outside and “Just Go!” as my friend Josh Cox, would say. There is something recharging and refreshing about just being outside in the elements.
Starting some sort of a routine/ritual that will promote healthy habits and healings- this will vary from person to person. For me, when I get home I turn my diffuser on, then place my favorite essential oils in and diffuse them. As well as turning on some uplifting, “chill” or high energy music depending on the mood I am trying to achieve.
What I’ve Learned
One of the biggest lessons I have learned throughout my life from trying to heal alone… is that other individuals are needed to help in the process of our healing. Of course, one must be at a place in life where they are ready and willing to accept the help.
Though sometimes we may feel as though we are burdening others, in many ways we end up blessing the other person when we allow someone to help us through our pain, suffering, and struggles. What ends up happening, is someone else is able to have healing done by the simple act of being of service to another human being. As well as, having the honor of being called on for their wisdom, grace, and guidance.
Human beings were created to be in community with one another. For some, the desire to help others and to be helped comes naturally. For many others, it is a bit more challenging to give and receive help. This is completely natural; the key is beginning to realize when help is needed. Only then can growth and healing begin to happen.
There are many times I refused help that was being offered, due to my own inability to accept the gift that individual was offering. I was not ready then. However, there was one time that changed my perception of letting someone help me through my struggles. I cannot recall the specific situation that led to the conversation, but one of my dearest friends now said to me, “Do not rob me of the ability to help you. As much as I am doing this for you, I am doing this for me also, because being able to help another is a gift to me.” Hearing this, changed my view on allowing others to step in and help when I am in need.
This is one of the biggest reasons I have maintained my transparency in life, and expose my vulnerability (when appropriate of course) is because I have gained so very much from others doing so with me. We heal when we help others heal. We lead by example, and what we do affects others- whether we are aware of that always or not.
There is no right or wrong way to heal. It takes what it takes for however long, and sometimes those deepest wounds will not reach a place of healing that we wish they would. That’s okay too. That shows us that we are human and that not everything can be “fixed”. Sometimes, we must learn to deal with the pain/uncomfortability/sadness and use that as the driving force to moving forward; strengthening ourselves and the ability to overcome.
We are survivors! That’s what we do… we survive!!!
What Stress Does to Our Bodies
Here are two videos that has proven to be very helpful in being able to identify and attempt to eliminate stressors in my life.
Shannon Redline is a full-time student and works as a Life Coach at the homeless youth shelter, Hearts With A Mission. Shannon is a member of A.C.T. (Abolish Child Trafficking) of Southern Oregon, through which she has taught The Prevention Project curriculum to local high school students. Shannon is a survivor of sex trafficking and other traumas, which has given her a passion for helping youth and sharing her testimony whenever possible. Shannon is an advocate, volunteer, mentor, dog mom and lover of the Lord.